Firstly regards my sexwork either now or in the past, I have always felt strongly that our own inner learning sex psychology should be in higher acclaim &/or awareness. When I was first a Dom back in the seventies, I just thought control, a damn good beating (if they asked for it)& get them (clients) out of the way as fast as possible, was the rules of sexwork in this area of work...how naive I was...& if only I had someone to tell me different may have helped..but..as the years & experience passed by, I began to actually understand my clients, their fears, their dilemma`s, their desires & where they could possibly originate from. I spent some time away from sex work & looked after badgers in a captive environment on Dartmoor..this was also another catalyst. I saw the behaviour of animals that are normally very social, change! & in some cases even become cannabalistic & aggressive. I began to make a conscious study of this. I saw the correlation to people who are forced to live homes with no space or any un-natural environment, even to those who are incarcerated in jails. How this affects the `nature` within was profound!
later on in my life for some years I then became a counseller...going back to the `street` from a different perspective..this affirmed my suspicions & also added to my sense of helplessness, tied as I was to `system`, during that time. I was asked to give talks about my amazing work with the street people of Plymouth (UK). I used this opportunity to `turn the mirror` on my audience (usually officiando`s). I told them about how valuable the work of sex workers is & could be even more potentially powerful in its affect on sexual issues of society...who else gets so close to the clients?...who else has full view of the `child within`, I said. I also used this opportunity to discuss my thoughts about drug users. Which is another bottomless pit of controversy..blaming this, blaming that.
I felt in all the love & hate for & against drugs in this world, that we were potentially missing vital opportunities & learning about ourselves. As I have always been open about my life in sex work, I have always been open about my views on drugs. I feel that drugs are not the problem..it is a mixture of what people feel about themselves & what they feel about others doing something they disapprove of.
Shamanically drugs have huge potential..done with reason in mind, in the right environment & with the right person/people...ritual is always important!
I have had a huge interest especially in psychology, mythology (not in a pagan sense though),sex & drugs/plants. So bearing this in mind I was given this link...(I have read PIKHAL by Shulgin..who this is about).
www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/lif...0302.ece
As a `promise on the horizon` I still think we as sexworkers will one day have a great right reinstated to us, as invaluable citizens of this world...once they give us the right to be heard in a positive & worthy manner.
later on in my life for some years I then became a counseller...going back to the `street` from a different perspective..this affirmed my suspicions & also added to my sense of helplessness, tied as I was to `system`, during that time. I was asked to give talks about my amazing work with the street people of Plymouth (UK). I used this opportunity to `turn the mirror` on my audience (usually officiando`s). I told them about how valuable the work of sex workers is & could be even more potentially powerful in its affect on sexual issues of society...who else gets so close to the clients?...who else has full view of the `child within`, I said. I also used this opportunity to discuss my thoughts about drug users. Which is another bottomless pit of controversy..blaming this, blaming that.
I felt in all the love & hate for & against drugs in this world, that we were potentially missing vital opportunities & learning about ourselves. As I have always been open about my life in sex work, I have always been open about my views on drugs. I feel that drugs are not the problem..it is a mixture of what people feel about themselves & what they feel about others doing something they disapprove of.
Shamanically drugs have huge potential..done with reason in mind, in the right environment & with the right person/people...ritual is always important!
I have had a huge interest especially in psychology, mythology (not in a pagan sense though),sex & drugs/plants. So bearing this in mind I was given this link...(I have read PIKHAL by Shulgin..who this is about).
www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/lif...0302.ece
As a `promise on the horizon` I still think we as sexworkers will one day have a great right reinstated to us, as invaluable citizens of this world...once they give us the right to be heard in a positive & worthy manner.
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Re: helping people with lifes shit.
Sat, May 17, 2008 - 9:25 AMAwesome post. Reminds me of witch hunting in a lot of ways. It seems that there is a fear of women having power and knowledge, a fear that breeds an unwillingness to even see the efficaciousness of a way not their own.
Perhaps healing powers in general are so feared because if people stop being broken, who will the oppressors find to oppress?
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Re: helping people with lifes shit.
Sat, May 17, 2008 - 4:02 PMI believe by accepting and respect women's sexuality in sincere way including her promiscuity and her ability to engage in sex purely for fun or as a facilitator of erotic scene for money, a man can also free himself. In someways, encounter with prostitute is like Koan shouted live in his face because for him to really respect sex worker means that he also accept his mother, his lover, his daughter and sister engaging in this work and engaging in sex in their own terms. Meeting prostitute is an an opportunity for him to face his deepest fears, jealousy, and how he defines love if he chooses to look at it beyond the entertainment value.
and this is about just meeting one, there is whole another level he can benefit from exploring, and developing his sexuality, new dynamics, and sensuality etc.
Unfortunately, it is so much easier in short sighted way to fall back in the comfort of religious moral and write off all sex work as " bad, dirty and damaging to women and men" Most people are happier to send the innocents to jail than to face it straight or to stand apart from the majority.
There are some important reasons ( some perhaps yet to be "discovered" ) why this occupation existed for thousands of years in human society and it is absolutely not only about commerce.
